Just my .02
Herein lies the issue. A LOT of the people on this site have been members for years and some have become close friends. When someone new comes on the site and their only interaction is "I'm looking for cigar A", it automatically is suspicious. This isn't something limited to you, it is a natural reaction to anyone who does so. People get burned on forums all the time, and since this is a "self policing" site for the most part, the veterans are going to watch out for everyone.
Just like the original advice to build a relationship with a B&M, the same applies here. Get involved, build some trust, and then you'll find how generous everyone is here.